Nov 03 2009
Making a Change: Starts with the Mind
I’ve been thinking about relationships for a long time. Basically, since I was in elementary school and my girlfriends always had a little “boyfriend.” I realized I never really had those summer romances, the switch-on/ switch-off boyfriends or the high school sweethearts that many of my friends can boast of. I didn’t even have a date to my senior prom. I’ve never been invited to a dance and have never actually been picked up and taken on a date (that I didn’t somehow initiate). Let me take that back… I’ve met one or two guys online, been hollered at while in my car, or behind a window; however, I’ve had an issue with guys even taking a second look when I’m standing right in front of them…at least guys my age (and we’re talking within a 5-10 year span my age…).
I digress…
I’ve been thinking about relationships for a long time. Long enough to know the common denominator is me. When I have high confidence, I tend to attract more lookers. Not more dates or more new friends… just lookers. However, I feel that when I’m down on myself, I repel the world. There comes a time when I have to make a change within myself and with my own thinking before I can truly realize external change. The changes I am beginning to make do not have to do with getting dates. I date myself. They don’t have to do with impressing people. I know what I can do and most people are usually impressed anyway. These changes are about my health.
Spiritual…
Emotional…
Physical…
Yes, in that order. I’m going to change my relationship status from the outside in. Ironically, I’ve received a proven tool to guarantee my mate finds me and I am married when I am ready. However, I’m not ready for that yet. (Hit me up if you would like it.) Now, I’m working on my relationship with God and with me. Those are the most important and the root of all my other relationships. It’s time to make a change… and it begins with a change of mind.
Without Wax,
J.Alexander
